Spontaneity

The most beautiful thing you can experience is the mysterious,” as said by Albert Einstein. Now while I’m not Albert Einstein’s biggest fan, the quote above is something that both he and I agree on. The mysterious is beautiful. The unknown, unplanned, and spontaneous are beautiful. It is beautiful in that you can not control every detail of what will happen. You must simply go along with it. This produces a childlike wonder within us that is extraordinary. Have you ever noticed how children are willing to try anything at a moments notice? The child within you wants to be spontaneous and adventurous. Sadly, spontaneity is one of the easiest things to kill within ourselves.

Daily routine takes over spontaneity. It begins to make a quiet exit, day by day without any notice. Before you know it you are rejecting anything that is unfamiliar, out of the ordinary, and mysterious. Perhaps you are constantly reminding yourself to be careful or always trying to be prepared. There is nothing wrong with a little preparation, but if you are always planning out everything in your life, and obsessed with orderliness you have forgotten how to be spontaneous. By giving yourself a chance to enjoy the moment and trusting yourself to leave when you are ready you avoid prophesizing a negative time and are more likely to embrace the event.

Look at your calendar:

Are you booked until next September? Is your time so booked that you could never take a minuet to get off the beaten path? If this is the case, how many of those “planned activities” can you put aside for a bit to give yourself time explore and be free? There are 24 hours in day; you’ll find time to do everything that is important to you. Finding time to be spontaneous is important. Stop worrying about staying on schedule and start living! Schedule time to get in your car and drive through an unfamiliar neighborhood. Go to the movies without deciding what you are going to see. Order something different off of the menu.

Give yourself a chance to get spontaneously excited about the things you do:

Sure you’ve seen hockey games before, but thinking that you will be bored because it will be like any other game is the wrong attitude. Instead, take each game as a new experience; after all you’ve never seen this game before. The same applies to attending a social function to accompany a spouse or out of some obligation. You may find yourself planning to have a bad time. Or at least you’ve decided that you are not going to have a great time. Rather than thinking negatively before you’ve arrived, decide after you get to the party how much fun you are having.

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